Escaping the 9-5 job to be a work at home mom

That moment when Rapunzel dreamed of leaving the tower to see the floating lights in the outside world...

I woke up one day feeling that moment - when I dreamed of escaping day job to be a work-at-home mom. Or what they simply call, a WAHM.

Cringe. 

Maybe it's just the bed bugs, I don't know. 

So I slept it off!

I've snoozed it on and off for fifteen years.

Wait, what?

Fifteen years!

Imagine Rapunzel spending her entire eighteen years of life doing what she thought she ought to do. Well, she was happy. She would paint to her heart's content. She would cook her favorite food. She would sing with her family, her pet Pascal. She had been into books and amazingly, she would learn something new every day. Almost perfect...

...except for the fact that she was trapped in the prison tower.

And being fascinated by the floating lights that occurred exactly on her birthdays, she found a way to fulfill her dream - to escape the tower and discover where those magical lights come from.

Ok, drop that fairy tale.

In the real world, majority of the working mothers including me, feel trapped in the 9-5 job system. Dissatisfied with the monotonous cycle of work each and every day.

Weekend rolls around and suddenly your to-do lists can get overwhelming.

Your weekends start to become too short to witness your kid's every milestone.

Suddenly, you're beginning to search for answers to a simple question like:

Are we moms really supposed to live the cycle of our weekdays job? 

Fifteen years of work in the comfort of my corporate zone is a never ending process.

It's been more or less a cycle to:

• Wake up.

• Fix my kids to school.

• Get stuck in the heavy traffic on the way to work.

• Work my eyes out in front of a computer the whole day and feel my stress level reach sky-high when banking hours are cut off.

• Get stuck in the heavier traffic on the way home.

• Ask my kids about their home work.

• Watch Madam Claudia and Miss Powers exchange their hugot lines in that popular tv soap (because I'm too exhausted to do something else)

• Go to bed kissing my kids wishing we have more quality time together.

• Sleep.

Somewhere deep in my heart, this is not I want to live for the rest of my motherhood life.

I want to own my time so that I can give it to my children whenever they need it the most.

I want to live in my own terms so that I can teach my children the meaning of independence in its truest sense.

I want to give value to others and be a good mom too, blend the two to get a sense of fulfillment.

Finally. 

Awakened.

The transition from being an employed mom to be a WAHM wouldn't be that easy, yes. 

I heard both the bright and the dark sides of working at home.

And here's 5 sets of advice that I think could help us moms become WAHM-savvy. 

1. Be mentally ready. Know your fears and do conquer them.

A good book by Napoleon Hill laid down the "6 ghosts of fear". These are, the fear of poverty, fear of criticism, fear of ill health, fear of loss of someone's love, fear of old age and fear of death. The author's advice is to "take inventory of yourself, find out how many of the ghosts of fear are standing in your way." He stated, that "fear is nothing more than a state of mind". The key is to "analyze yourself, disclose your weaknesses and face the facts squarely".

2.  Talk out your plans with your husband, family and friends.

It's always comforting to know that your family most especially your husband understands how you feel. If you're a single mom, friends and family are there to support you. They're going to give you advice even if you don't seek it and they're more than willing to offer you help when you really need it. Acknowledge and thank their support. While you seek advice to people who have been there and done what you've always wanted to do. 

3. Start creating multiple streams of income and cutting down expenses.

Grow your knowledge and use it. Specialize your skill  because it's your weapon. Develop your talent because it's a blessing. Follow Fitz Villafuerte and his articles because he can read your mind when it comes to your personal finance. These actions will leverage you to come up with creating sources of income. Meanwhile, lifestyle downgrade, cutting down utility costs, planning your grocery, and sticking to a budget are some of the ways to reduce expenses.      

4. Create an effective and doable schedule.

Have a clear idea of what needs to be done for the day and jot it down. Multitask if you can. Otherwise, delegate. Staying productive can be a challenge for WAHM especially when your office is just a step away from your kids' arena. You pull it off with a drama of your kids' sibling fight. So it's really best to find out which slot on the 24 hrs of the day you're most productive and hit on it.

5. Enjoy life, simply and be healthy.

Feel-good movies. Addictive books. Good food. Relaxing music. A good night's sleep. Hearty talk with friends. These are the most affordable spices of life that we can take advantage when it's time for me-time. You have the right to sit down and relax a bit. You won't lose a client if you sip your perfectly-brewed coffee at this moment, would you? Eat the right food and do exercise. A healthy mom keeps a healthy home.

Being a WAHM entitles you to get the best of both worlds- profession and parenthood.

If you're a passionate person with a big dream and bigger actions, one day you'll wake up and be the living Rapunzel that you can be. Like she did, you might find that it's all worth it.

8 tips on studying for the board exam when you're a mom :)

Hi there mommy students! 

Hats off for you who can juggle between studying and home making. Cause it's never an easy feat, right?

A few years ago, I took a vacation leave to fully prepare for the cpa board. Though I knew I had to set aside such free time for my review, I can't help but get addicted to super mom duties right away. Work absence made me able to fix my kids' baon - complete with TLC and all. I'd send my kids off to school at mornings. Would fetch them by afternoon before I head to review school. I'd come home at night feeling super tired yet productive. 

Surprisingly, I managed to stretch the night by reading my notes. Right after my girls are done with their homework. 

These were the times I felt most fulfilled as a mom.

Anyway, I thought of sharing a few tips on studying cause my sister will be taking up her board exams pretty soon. 

"The exam is very passable but only for those who did their homework.", they say.

The preparation is tough but lo and behold, the exam's quite easy!

So go pick your courage, mommy. 

After all, accounting is not that brain-wrecking, nose-bleeding study of exact science. It's an art!

image from: examtime.com

It's a medium of how you can:

1. Manage your time. Set your schedule. 
Allocate your 24 hours. There's no ideal period of time allotted to this and that. It depends on your sets of priorities. Let's assume you spend eight hours for sleeping, two hours for personal necessities like eating and grooming, one hour for prompting your kids to eat (seriously), one hour for prompting them to bed (again seriously), one hour okay make that two quality hours with your husband, five hours for review classes including the commute. Add them all up, subtract from 24 and voila, you still have remaining 5 magical hours for studying. Yay!  :)

2. Get a household help, for your own sake.
Once enrolled in a reputable review school, make sure you have someone trustworthy enough to fix your home and look for your little rascals while you're away. Yes ma'am, go get some helper if you want to maintain your sanity. That helper will keep a clean environment conducive to your study. Don't forget to secure a good study area in your home. Preferably, like, a locked room.  Free. From. Any. Distraction.

3. Take care of your health. 
Eat your breakfast too mommy. Try to avoid sugars and not to consume caffeine just before bedtime. Cause you need to get an adequate hours of sleep. Sleep deprivation can affect hormones in our bodies and may not bring us to perform well in studying at all. Have your supplements if needed. And get a doze of energy boosting hugs from your husband and kids.

4. . Make a bible notebook before classes begin.  
Before review classes began, I jotted down the accounting principles in a handy notebook. Cause I find accounting books as good as sleeping pills. I resorted to doodling. Made my notes interesting and fun. Created my own tools, my personal formulas that help me solve problem anytime. Alas, I tend to recall things easily when the key notes are in vertical order. I used pnemonics  and association of ideas. I related the concepts to real-life situations. I found myself easily reading my outlines- a flowchart, a table, a diagram, a map - in my handy notebook. My bible notebook. It was all I needed to get my extremely poor memory activated.

5. Pick accounting problems. Know them cold.
There are thousands of problems in a hundred of books so don't you ever! And I mean never try solving them all! Choose and solve only the best problems in an updated book. It's better to be a master of few, than a neophyte of many. Understand the why and how of accounting principles. Don't fall into the habit of passive reading. Recite. Reflect. Review. Master the general principles and their exceptions. Be ridiculous. Study in advance and answer the assigned materials before going to your class. So that you'll know what to ask your instructor. Engage in group study. Don't leave the lesson unclear. Internalize and recall the solution. You will realize you have fully understood the concepts when you can apply them in problems using your tools listed in your bible notebook.. 
And oh, before touching other review school's materials, finish your own materials first.

6. Remember these 3 D's
       Discipline - Stick to your routine. Experts say, our brain doesn't retain that much if pressured. So take a bit of rest in between studying. Study over short time intervals. As for me, I relaxed by watching scary movies. For one, Walking Dead did me the tricks :) And well you can get a break for Clash of Clans. Just a bit of adrenaline rush, smashing those dragons. And afterwards, you go back to reality. :)
       Determination - If you can't seem to solve problems right, don't get discouraged. They say real learning comes from making mistakes. Mark your wrong answers. Jot down corrections in your bible notebook for you to recall them later. Never stop until you know the problems like the back of your hand. :).
       Divine Intervention- Ask for it. Pray to God always.

7. Go for it!
When you're feeling down, imagine your future license cold in your palm, and recite with conviction as many times as you like, the following lines I got from a book: "I can do it. Now I am achieving my goals. Learning and remembering are easy for me. My mind moves efficiently & effectively. I am supremely calm and confident. I remember all I need to know. My memory is alert. My mind is powerful." ...And then you imagine your adorable kids smiling from ear to ear and yelling "You did it Mom, you're the best!" Your kids can be your most powerful motivator.. :)

8. Be early on your exam day. Prepare for the battle.
Kiss your husband and kids for good luck. Never be intimidated by smart looking fellow examinees. Look smart too! :) . Be familiar with the exam format beforehand.  Anticipate the exam content. Monitor your time. Skip difficult problems, easy ones first. Read carefully the questions or requirements of the problem. Work efficiently, double check your answers, finish it. And pray again. You give your best, God will do the rest.


I'm not an expert adviser but I hope this can help.....Lotsa good luck to you future mommy board passers! ;)